7 rules that your child needs to learn to protect themselves from strangers
All parents are worried about their children not facing bad people who can offend them, cause physical and moral trauma. To prevent this from happening, parents need to explain to their child the rules of behavior with strangers for children. After all, a small child is very sociable, so he wants to get acquainted with almost everyone, especially with those who smile, talk to him sweetly, offer toys and sweets. However, because of such gullibility, children can get into the most unpleasant situations. That is why parents need to establish a clear rule of behavior with strangers for children.
Communication with strangers only when older
So, initially you need to explain to the child that you can only talk with the people who were presented to them by their father or mother. If, on the street, a child begins to communicate with unfamiliar men or women, then such communication should be strictly controlled by their elders. Explain to the baby that he can speak with an unfamiliar uncle or aunt only when there is a mom, dad, older sister, brother, someone from the family, or some adult person who is well known to the child, and, accordingly, parents. Otherwise, talking to strangers is prohibited.
Stories about going to parents
Explaining the rules of behavior, you also need to focus the attention of the child on the fact that in no case can not go with people whom he does not know and even more so get into their car. Often, in such situations, a bike was prepared for the children that the parents sent for them. Explain to your baby that you and dad will always warn him if you want to send someone. Therefore, when an uncle or aunt says that they are going to their parents, there is no need to believe in any case, otherwise misfortune will happen.
Do not believe in the bounty of strangers
Even in the rules of behavior that you tell your child, there should be a point that you can not believe the people who promise him to buy something. Try to logically explain to your baby that unfamiliar uncles and aunts will not give anything for nothing. Therefore do not need to believe them. If the child is offered to go with someone to buy something, let him answer that he doesn’t need anything, and mom and dad will buy everything. Even if a stranger offers something the child dreams of, he should not believe. Of course, it’s difficult to convey to young children, but you have to convince him that Santa Claus and parents with relatives, and not strangers on the street, fulfills cherished desires.
Many children trust women more than men, especially if these women are pleasant and smiling. In your rules of conduct should be focused on such women. Explain to the child that even if the aunt is kind and smiles, there is no need to go with her. After all, if she is kind, then she will understand that you just do not want to go with her.
Who to ask for help
If a child begins to be led away somewhere by force, he should shout and call for help. Explain to the baby that there is nothing to be ashamed of. Let him call those who are nearby. If he can break out, then immediately need to run to the men in the form. Explain to the child that the police uncle will be able to protect him. In addition, in this case, you can be almost one hundred percent sure that your baby will really stand up. By the way, it can be not only a policeman, but also a security guard or a fireman. The main thing that it was a man in the form. Let the child always remember this. If there is not a single man in uniform, then explain to the child that he should seek help from another aunt. Well, if it is a woman with a child. In this case, there is more confidence that the lady will not ignore his request.
And another tip that can be included in the rules of conduct when a similar situation occurs. If your child has a mobile phone, then let him immediately call you and tell where he is, what's with him. In this case, most likely, the person who wants to harm your child will be afraid that they will open it and leave. Remember that such an interest in children is shown by deeply complex and mentally ill people who are afraid of society and increased attention.
1. Who is a stranger
Similar topics of conversation can be raised when your little one is three years old, even at such a tender age, children are able to perceive this information.
Tell the child in detail who the stranger is. Often, in the view of children, a person who wishes you evil, is ugly, has a harsh suspicious appearance. Kids take this stereotype from fairy tales and cartoons, and indeed, what kind of fairy-tale villain seems to be an ordinary person.
You must explain to the child that a stranger is any person that the baby does not know. If someone else’s uncle or aunt says that the child simply forgot it, then it’s still a stranger.
Teach your child, under no circumstances to get into cars, not to go after strangers and not to help them, and even better not to talk at all without your presence, but to immediately get out of sight.
Normal adults do not need anything from small children, and they themselves will not bother with questions without the presence of the baby's parents.
Do not intimidate the child too much so that he does not shy away from every person on the street.
2. Discuss scenarios
Not every adult can accurately identify a dangerous situation and a person, let alone a child. Therefore, it is best to discuss in advance with the crumb, which situations are potentially dangerous, and what actions he needs to take immediately.
- They offer to ride a car. Under no circumstances get into the car, immediately run in the opposite direction and disappear from view in a crowded place.
- Go buy a gift, help do something, show something interesting. Give up and leave quickly.
- Forcibly dragged into a car or other place. Forget about parenting and morality. Shout out loud, beat, bite.
- They say that his mother is waiting for him there, or his mother needs help. Do not go, hide.
Beat the situation with toys visually, find out how clearly you explained everything to the child.
3. To whom to run
Tell your child that in case of danger, problems, or when the baby is lost, he should contact the policeman, the guards, for example, in the shopping center, the vendor in the store, or, best of all, another mother with a child.
When a child has an idea about people who can help in a difficult situation, this will allow him to gain time without spending it to think, “what to do” and “where to run.”
Teach your child to detect in his car, or any hints, to run in the opposite direction, this will give the baby time while the car turns around. If a kid is being watched by a stranger without a car, let the child be loud, if he is in a public place, he says: “Why do you follow me, I don’t know you.” Criminals do not need extra attention of people. If the baby in a deserted place is better to run and hide.
5. Attention of other people
Tell the child how he can attract attention and scare away the alien. Let them wonder out loud why someone else’s uncle would pester the child, let them deliberately push goods from the store shelf, or create another noise.
Say that if someone tries to grab him, it is important not just to shout: “Leave me alone, let go,” but to vote: “I don’t know you, you are not my dad.” Hysterics and the roar of children do not surprise adults, so you need to make it clear to others that the kid sees the person who drags him for the first time.
6. Who can touch you
Explain intelligibly to the child that only close people and the doctor can touch it, especially in such places as the hips, stomach, buttocks, genitals, and breasts. Tell them that he must tell parents about any such attempts. Teach you not to keep it secret from your parents if someone asks you not to tell anything about your body. This will prevent sexual abuse.
7. Code word, like secret agents
Come up with secret words with your child at the time of danger. These should not be strange little-used words; codes should fit well in ordinary speech.
Let the child know some code words in case he has already been taken away and he answers your call. And also in case, for example, if someone offers to spend it with mom. If a person can not call the code, let the baby immediately runs and calls for help.
Explain to your child how important it is to always be in touch with parents, so that at the slightest danger call them. Let him enter into his habit of telling you about his movements, intentions and plans.
Memo to parents
- Make it a rule to always know where your child is, to teach the child to always ask for your approval before going somewhere.
- Help your kid learn your phone number by heart.
- Show where in your area is not safe to walk.
- Teach your child to trust in intuition, if something seems strange and suspicious to him, let him leave a dangerous place or leave a suspicious person.
- Teach not to be shy to scream or run away once again.
- Do not put clothes and accessories with his name on the child, this will make it easier for criminals to approach the child. When strangers know your child’s first and last name, it’s much easier for them to trust them.
Do not make it easier for strangers to do this by leaving their names on personal items.
- Teach your child to protect himself, tell him where to strike if you are dragged into the car by force.
- Encourage communication with other children, say it is safer to go with friends.
- Make every effort to inspire your child with trust, friendship, and let them feel your support and care.
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It is not often to see children of preschool age walking around the city on their own - they are usually accompanied by parents, nannies or teachers. But there are situations in which the child may be left alone on the street or, for example, in a shopping center. At such times, children are vulnerable and unprotected, so they can become the object of attention of ill-wishers. Parents should explain a few basic rules of behavior on the street:
- Do not meet with adults
- Do not disclose personal information (address, telephone number, parents' names) to strangers,
- Do not go outside the yard and walk in unfamiliar places without being accompanied by loved ones.
When meeting with a stranger, the child should remember the following rules:
- Do not talk or talk about yourself. Conversation with strangers can not be maintained. You just need to say that parents do not allow to communicate with strangers. Any questions should be ignored, even if they seem harmless.
- Do not accept offers. To interest a child, a stranger can offer a ride in a car, show an unusual toy, or even take part in a competition with generous prizes. In no case it is impossible to agree to such tempting offers - it is a trap.
- Do not accept gifts. If a stranger wants to hand a candy, chocolate or a toy, you must refuse and pass by. Free gifts from strangers can not be trusted.
- Do not believe strangers. A person can assure the child that he is a good friend of his parents, but you cannot believe this. Especially if a stranger offers to give a lift or take the child home. You can only believe in one case - if the parents have warned the child in advance that a family friend will come for him. You can also agree with the child about the code word that the friend of the parents should say when they meet.
- Do not enter the elevator or staircase with strangers. You need to wait until they pass or leave, and only then go into the entrance or elevator. Even better, call home and ask someone from the family to meet at the entrance.
- Move to a crowded place, attract the attention of others in case of danger. If a stranger tries to grab the child or threatens him, you need to scream to draw the attention of passers-by to what is happening.
Children can meet a stranger not only on the street, but also at home. If you even left a 5-6-year-old child at home for 5 minutes, instruct him in case of unexpected visits. You cannot immediately open the door - first you need to look through the peephole and ask “who is there?”. Strangers cannot be allowed into an apartment, even if they appear to be electricians, postmen or plumbers.
Naturally, not every meeting with a stranger is a danger to children. For example, a child may get lost in a park or a supermarket, and passersby will try to help him. In this case, adults, as a rule, turn to a guard, police officer or information desk. And the child needs to give his full name to find the parents.
It is not dangerous to communicate with strangers if the child walks with his parents. Moms and dads are more attentive and will not allow strangers to treat children incorrectly. A child can calmly answer general questions, but personal data is not necessary to share.
Children often encounter strangers in their daily lives - they are shop assistants, doctors in the clinic, colleagues or parents' friends. In these cases, being afraid of the child, on the contrary, should meet new people, talk with them. Children are usually shy, shy and hiding behind their parents. Therefore, mothers and fathers should explain the rules of behavior of a child with strangers in such situations:
- be polite
- don't be afraid to answer questions
- don't interrupt adult conversation
- be friendly and welcoming.
Growing up, the child will be better guided in dealing with strangers, will become more attentive and will learn to distinguish between potentially dangerous situations. In the meantime, the baby is still too trusting, mom and dad should not leave him unattended.
How do you think it is possible to ensure maximum safety for children? And how to teach a child not to trust suspicious strangers?
Who can be considered "Their", a loved one, and whom - "Stranger",
Who can be called familiar?
How does a friend differ from a loved one, and from "Alien", stranger.
"Their"relatives are mom, dad, brothers, sisters, grandmothers, grandfathers, aunts. uncle
Familiar - peers, educators, senior friends, friends of parents, neighbors.
Outsiders "Strangers" - passers, sellers, just strangers.
- Today we will talk about meetings with unfamiliar adults.
Situation 1. "Unfamiliar a person treats a child with candy, ice cream, persuades a girl or a boy to go somewhere with him, offers something interesting, seems to her mother's acquaintance "
The Tale of Snow White (The Evil Stepmother sent her maid, who pretended to be a kind old woman, so that she would give the princess a poisoned apple).
Princess apple took what the old woman brought
The brothers had to shed a lot of tears.
Fortunately, everything went well.
During the discussion, the teacher must bring to the mind of children that unfamiliar it is better not to enter into a conversation, and if, nevertheless, the conversation takes place, then it is necessary to respond politely, briefly, with all sorts of things showing that this person does not interest you, that you are in a hurry, you are expected.
- Which of you will go with him?
- What will you answer him?
"Sorry, I'm in a hurry."
"Thank you, but my mother does not allow me to talk to strangers»
Game situation. Because of the fence an unfamiliar aunt calls the child:
for example: "Let's go to the store, I'll buy you some candy.", “I have a canary and I want to make friends with you” etc. You are so good, I like you very much. Come with me, I'll give you a toy. ”
- Did you do it right (but?
If the aunt came
And aside took away,
And gave the candy,
And talked to you,
Pro parents asked:
"Dad with mom at work?"
Suddenly she is a bad aunt?
I will give you one piece of advice:
Talk more often: not.
"I am with someone else without permission
They did not order to speak. ”
Can you this sentence
Twelve times to repeat.
Situation 2. «Stranger behind the door»
Fairy tale "Three pigs"What happened when the pigs opened the door unfamiliar sheep? Who was hiding under the skin of a lamb?
Fairy tale "Wolf and 7 kids"Right Do the kids do that opened the door to the wolf. What happened to them then?
Conversation: “To which of these people would you open the door?” - in the door peephole you can see a doctor, a policeman, a mechanic or a postman, etc. Is this a real doctor, a policeman.? What are his intentions and what does he want to do? What words can he persuade to open the door?
Together with the children do conclusion:
* Do not open the door unfamiliar, even if he has a tender voice or he seems to be a doctor, friends of his parents, knows their names, makes tempting offers. What should the child answer in this situation and how should he behave.
- no need to talk to a stranger,
- If you entered into a conversation, do not say that you are alone at home. Say that parents are resting, or are in the bathroom,
Game situation. A person in the form of a doctor or police officer asks to open the door. I urgently need to come in, it's my parents who asked me to come in, check that everything is in order. I need to give the documents to your parents, very urgently.
-Correctly done now?
Maybe a neighbor has come
Maybe locksmith Nicholas -
Do not open it to anyone!
Suddenly there with a familiar voice
Says quite a stranger
You say: "No mother at home".
Do not let him go home!
Situation 3: “A pleasant-looking young man invites a boy or girl to ride in his new car”
Fairy tale "Swan geese" The girl's brother succumbed to the entreaties of the geese, and they carried him to him to Baba Yaga in the hut. ”
Conversation: Possible answers: “Thank you, I'm in a hurry!”, "Sorry, my mother is waiting for me", “I already skated today”, "We have the same car", "I do not want to talk to you!" and so on. Run away, call for help. - What will you answer him?
“Knocks me in the car. My dad drives a car ».
Game situation: “Sit down! I will ride you around our house! Do you want to twist the steering wheel? We will ride a little, and even mom will not know! ”
If Uncle is very kind,
A friend is not around,
Maybe he just wants
Does your bike take away?
If he doesn't know you
So why does he call you?
Suddenly all promise
And take away from mom?
Total. Guys, what kind of person do we call unfamiliar? (Children's answers.)
Remember, this is the person you personally do not know. He may call you by name, say that he is familiar with one of your relatives, be called a colleague of your father or mother, a friend of your grandfather, but all these words mean nothing. After all, he could specifically find out your name or just hear how friends call you. And best of all, you guys don't have any conversations with strangers!
- Today we remembered safe behavior with strangers. Be careful and cautious when you are alone, follow these regulations.
Memo for parents "Organization of safety and protection of the child's life" Memo for parents "Organization of safety and protection of the child's life" From an early age, the child interacts with others.
Raising safe behavior among preschoolers We would like to devote our meeting today to a very important issue - the education of safe behavior in our children. You probably ask.